Happiness as choice; Be Exceptional; Rodríguez; Eccentricity; High Sensitivity; Write What You Know?


Gretchen Rubin: “If my happiness project has convinced me of anything, it has convinced me that resolutions-made right-can make a huge difference in boosting happiness.

“So, how do you resolve aright, and keep your resolutions? Ask yourself these questions:

“What would make me happier?” It might mean more of something good…It might be less of something bad.”

Being exceptional, unusually skillful, smart, creative or otherwise more capable than the norm, may include a judgment both by others and ourselves as being an ‘outsider.’

Gifted and talented people can experience a self-defeating aversion to expressing talents that might separate them from other people.

Girls and women may be especially sensitive about fitting in, and deny their capabilities…
Dr. Noble cites the power of a specific example: “‘Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?’ This is the question that opens the tale of Snow White…it is the question that forms the core of most quest stories written for women and girls, and it is the question that serves most forcefully to blind us to our strengths.”

Many gifted writers, actors, designers, entrepreneurs and other talented people achieve a lot, make notable contributions to the world, and gain recognition.

But much larger numbers are not acknowledged by others, or even themselves.

The 2012 documentary “Searching for Sugar Man” helped rediscover musician Rodríguez.

Deutsch: Karl Lagerfeld in der Bücherei. Ein W...

Deutsch: Karl Lagerfeld in der Bücherei. Ein Werk von Stefan Strumbel (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“I hope I’m becoming more eccentric. More room in the brain.” Musician Tom Waits

Being eccentric – choosing not to be more safely mundane – can help our creative thinking and courage.

As psychologist Robert Ornstein, PhD has noted, “If you spend too much time being like everybody else, you decrease your chances of coming up with something different.”

Karl Lagerfeld, the prominent fashion designer, photographer and publisher, and artistic director of Chanel, has eclectic and unusual tastes in clothing – so I would consider him one example of an eccentric.

Along with the many benefits of our high sensitivity trait, we may also be especially susceptible to anxiety.

One aspect of a highly sensitive nervous system can be a strong startle response, as noted in an item on the Self-Test on the site of Psychologist Elaine Aron, PhD: “I startle easily.”

It may be advice often given to writers, but is the idea to “write what you know” always understood, and valuable for creating good work?In his post “Write what you know” – the most misunderstood piece of good advice, ever., Jason Gots comments that writer Nathan Englander “says that ‘write what you know’ is one of the best and most misunderstood pieces of advice, ever…”

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